Set New Standards For Your Life
The reason for unhappiness is unfulfilled desire.
When you think life should be a certain way, and the life you are currently living is not a good match with your blueprint, unhappiness and dissatisfaction ensues.
One reason for this is that we don’t make clear to ourselves, what we want in our lives and what we want to eliminate.
Most of the times you ask someone what their goals and aspirations are, you will receive a vague response. This is because they, themselves have a vague understanding of where they want to be in life.
However, the first step to creating the life you want is to know clearly, what kind of life you want to create. With a vague blueprint, you will receive vague results.
Knowing exactly what you want puts you one step forward towards achieving the life you desire. So set new standards. What are you willing to tolerate in your life? What matters the most to you? What are you willing to settle for?
Listed below, are the seven areas of life that come together to determine how happy or unhappy you feel. This model was created by Tony Robbins and it is something that Tony still uses to mentor people today.
Give yourself a rating from 1-10 based on how happy and satisfied you are with each particular area in your life. Then evaluate your overall scores and set some new standards.
Give yourself a clear idea of where you are currently and where you want to be. The knowledge of this gap between your current and desired situation is the first step to closing it.
Also listed below, are some questions that will help you navigate this exercise. Be honest but don’t be unnecessarily harsh on yourself as you grade your performance in each area.
Physical body: How do you view your body? Are you satisfied with how you currently look? Do you feel well? How often do you exercise? Do you have a loving relationship with your body? If not, why?
Emotions and Meaning: How well would you say you handle your emotions? Do you spend most of your time feeling fearful, depressed, angry, anxious, guilty, and jealous OR happy, enthusiastic, energetic, adventurous, calm, confident, and joyful? How well do you handle situations? Do you react or do you respond? Are you neurotic? Do you frequently let negative thoughts consume you? How would you describe your state of mind?
Relationships: Do you have a loving relationship with the people in your life? Do you treat people well and do people treat you well? Do you get into a lot of arguments and fights? Would you say that your relationships are generally stable? If your friends and family could describe you in one word, do you think it would be a positive one?
Time: How are you at managing your time? Do you constantly feel that there is not enough time in the day? Do you spend your time productively? Do you believe that most of your time is going towards something that you are not passionate about? Are you constantly thinking about the past and future while neglecting the present moment? Do you consider yourself to be patient?
Career: Do you treat to your job as “work,” “career,” or “mission.” Are you passionate towards your work? Do you find a sense of self in the work that you do? Do you believe that your time is spent well when you are working? Are you making the right career moves? Do you believe that you are on the right path? Would you consider your work to be your purpose in this life? Do you feel joy while working? Are you always working towards something or do you work to earn a daily wage?
Finances: Would you refer to yourself as financially stable? How often are you behind on bill payments? Are you able to do the things that you enjoy? Are you constantly being held back from doing what you love because of a lack of money? How secure do you feel about your financial condition? Do you think that you spend your money wisely?
Spiritual Sense: Do you operate from the ego or the Self? Do you find it easy to be at peace with yourself? Do you allow yourself to celebrate small victories and rejoice in nature’s wonders? Do you feel connected to other living beings? Do you give back? Do you enjoy helping others out of of love?
Give yourself an honest rating out of 10 for each area of life. This will give you a clear understanding of your current life situation.
These ratings will show you two things: the cause of your unhappiness and the areas in which you are doing well.
You will notice that the areas in which you gave yourself the worst ratings are the areas of life you are neglecting most.
This is because: Lack of focus = Lack of results
To increase the quality of your life, start by directing your focus to areas that need your attention. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should detract focus from other areas, but instead attempt to balance them all.
In his book, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success,” Deepak Chopra states,
“What you focus on will grow stronger, what you ignore will wither away and disappear.”
Balance the wheel of life through the power of focus.
To set new standards for yourself, simply consider the minimum rating you are willing to tolerate for each of the 7 areas of life. Keep working to improve until you believe that you feel good about your ratings. Spontaneously, you will notice a hike in your happiness level.
A good thing to keep in mind is that this is not a one time fix. Your life is constantly changing and refreshing itself so your approach needs to change as well.
Reevaluate your ratings every couple of months to properly assess yourself, then work towards your goals accordingly. Always remember that if you want to be great, if you want to be happy, training never stops,
Written by Sunny Sharma