How To Get Over & Recover From Any Loss
In this post, I want to show you 4 effective ways to recover from any type of loss that you may have suffered in your life.
I will be sharing 4 tips to help you get over any type of loss in your life. Whether it is a breakup, or losing a job that you really enjoyed, or even the loss of a loved one.
I am writing this post right after attending a show hosted by Lewis Howes. The topic of this particular episode from the show was recovering from loss.
On the show, Lewis had someone who had recently lost his brother in a house fire and he failed to rescue him from that fire.
I’m blanking out on the man’s name but for this article’s sake, let’s call him John. So because this tragedy occurred in John’s life, he frequently suffers from feelings of guilt and remorse from the loss of his brother.
What I learned from the show inspired me to make this video because we all go through loss in our lives at one point or another.
It is important to mindfully recover from any sort of loss so that we don’t let what happened to us in the past hold us back from moving on and from living a positive healthy life.
So let’s get right into it.
Tip #1: Treat the recovery process with a sense of purpose.
Don’t leave it on autopilot. What many of us do when we suffer from any type of loss is we don’t properly deal with it and we just leave the healing process on autopilot.
It is important that you don’t avoid the grieving process. You might have to be strong and independent for yourself and others around you but you must deal with the recovery process with a sense of purpose.
This means that you shouldn’t just leave it up to time to heal your emotional woulnds and you shouldn’t avoid confronting your emotions by keeping your mind occupied through countless distractions.
Make time each and every day to note how you feel about the subject. Bring your awareness into the emotions that you are feeling from the loss that you have suffered.
By bringing your awareness into your how you really feel about the subject, you allow the emotion to slowly pass. What will happen if you continue to avoid confronting the emotion, is that it will continue to reside in your subconscious mind and hold you back from creating a positive future.
So everyday make time to note how you feel, set goals for how you want to feel and then track your progress.
Tip #2. Find an activity that brings you joy.
This is different from distracting yourself from your emotions. Instead of always filling up your time with things just to keep your mind off of how you truly feel, find one or two activities that really bring you joy and fulfillment.
This could be just a hobby that you enjoy like playing the guitar, or a sport, or painting. Or it could also be work that you love like writing or creating content or anything like that.
When you begin to do more things that bring you actual joy, you start to heal your emotional wounds and get back into living a positive life.
Tip #3. Reach out to others and allow them to support you.
Don’t feel like a burden. So during the show, John mentioned that he had many close friends who were very supportive and always helped him.
But regardless of that, he always felt reluctant to reach out to them when he felt that he needed to speak to someone because he didn’t want to inflict his emotions onto his friends.
See this actually works in the complete opposite way. The people in your life who support you would actually love the opportunity to help you out and be there for you during a time when you need their help.
It in only in our minds that we think we are being a burden and therefore, hold ourselves back from doing what is necessary for us to feel better.
Not only that, but giving them the opportunity to help you will actually bring you guys closer together. So never feel like an emotional burden and always reach out to your loved ones for help.
Tip #4. Stop the ongoing loop of your bad memories replaying in your mind by replacing them with new positive thoughts.
Everytime you catch yourself replaying your bad memories, catch yourself and divert your thought to envisioning your future.
This is a powerful psychological exercise that will help you rewire your brain to think more positively. Every time you catch yourself thinking of your old negative situation, stop.
See, to eliminate negative thoughts, there’s no need to fight against the negative thoughts. Simply start thinking positive thoughts and slowly but surely, the negative thoughts will fade away.
Take for example a dark room. You cannot fight against the darkness and make it go away. All you need to do to get rid of the darkness is switch on the light.
Our mental space works in this exact same way. Start thinking more positive thoughts and the negative thoughts will eventually fade away.
As soon as you acknowledge yourself replaying your old memories, start to think about how you want your future to look like.
Visualize the picture of your ideal future, running in your mind while feeling those positive emotions.
The process of recovering from loss MUST be done consciously otherwise you are only working against yourself and holding yourself back from creating a better future.
I hope this post helps. I wish you goodluck with your healing process!